Relationship Advice

Dear Starcana...
For the last few months, my wife and I have been experiencing some real difficulties in our marriage, and I want to know if you see the two of us ever being able to work things out.
Signed, Concerned Taurus

Dear Concerned Taurus...
I found interest in your detailed letter, and felt your desperation, so I chose your question to answer this week. Like the other readings in this journal, I've excluded all of your emotional information for privacy purposes.

From the Tarot deck that I chose for you, I had drawn the 2 of Swords, the Hanged Man, and the Devil in regards to your personal request. From what I pick up on your energy, I can feel that you are a warm, gentle person despite the emotional storms that surround your torrid relationship. I see that you are a very balanced person, as patience seems to be one of your special qualities. With control of your emotions, your thinking is crystal clear and you are determined to bring peace to your marriage.Your confidence and faith is strong, despite the rocky path that you both have been traveling on. Fortunately, there have been positive efforts from both parties, where I find that to be a HUGE first step toward saving a marriage. Despite the ongoing obstacles and regular frustrations, I can see that both you and your wife have tried to be upfront and honest with each other - although you don't see eye to eye on many issues. The true key to "staying power" is effort, and that has its' reward, when the timing is right.

I can see that you often feel very alone while living together. You are the rock in your marriage. You are solid, secure, and strong enough for BOTH of you. You are a very patient man during her outbursts. She is so controlled by her thoughts and emotions, that she doesn't even realize that your peaceful nature is the piece of string that is actually holding the two of you together right now. Your wife continues to struggle with many personal and professional issues, and for the last few months she has been feeling incredibly overwhelmed. With all of that occurring for her, those overwhelmed feelings are now creating the illusion that make it appear as if you have not completely fulfilled your end of the marriage bargain. She is feeling cheated from you... cheated emotionally.. basically because there has been no immediate resolution to your situation, so she feels as if she needs to now take this matter into her own hands (along with her other workload). She is overburdened, and feeling under-appreciated.

On the other hand, your personal experience feels that time and love heals all, and that this will all work out in the end. Hard effort does not have to be applied in your mind - when love and faith is on your side. She doesn't have faith. She feels that without hard effort, that you are not offering something solid for the marriage, and she does not want to be the only one incharge of making the marriage work. The union between the two of you is a priority, and fixing it immediately is necessary, as it lays an extra heavy burden across her weary shoulders. Her thoughts are jumbled with confusion and frustrations, that is creating an murky gray aura that resembles stagnation, making her feel that there will be no room for growth for the future.

I do see that your marriage will last, but it will also have a few unresolved issues that seem to be too sensitive to discuss in an adult manner.. at least for the next few months. I see the two of you holding on to what you have built together, but see you living separate lives while living together. Love and passion still exists between you, so if you are both willing to take some additional steps (as in marriage counseling and inner work) to find peace, contentment and trust... you can overcome those feelings of limitations and roadblocks toward happiness. If the two of you consider professional consultations with a trained person in this field, I see late August will be a joyful turning point in your lives. Without the help of a professional, you can expect to see your marriage take a promising turn toward forgiveness and reconciliation by as early as late fall.

Best Wishes.
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