Dear Starcana...
For the last few months, my wife and I have been experiencing some real difficulties in our marriage, and I want to know if you see the two of us ever being able to work things out.
Signed, Concerned Taurus
Dear Concerned Taurus...
I found interest in your detailed letter, and felt your desperation, so I chose your question to answer this week. Like the other readings in this journal, I've excluded all of your emotional information for privacy purposes.
From the Tarot deck that I chose for you, I had drawn the 2 of Swords, the Hanged Man, and the Devil in regards to your personal request. From what I pick up on your energy, I can feel that you are a warm, gentle person despite the emotional storms that surround your torrid relationship. I see that you are a very balanced person, as patience seems to be one of your special qualities. With control of your emotions, your thinking is crystal clear and you are determined to bring peace to your marriage.Your confidence and faith is strong, despite the rocky path that you both have been traveling on. Fortunately, there have been positive efforts from both parties, where I find that to be a HUGE first step toward saving a marriage. Despite the ongoing obstacles and regular frustrations, I can see that both you and your wife have tried to be upfront and honest with each other - although you don't see eye to eye on many issues. The true key to "staying power" is effort, and that has its' reward, when the timing is right.
I can see that you often feel very alone while living together. You are the rock in your marriage. You are solid, secure, and strong enough for BOTH of you. You are a very patient man during her outbursts. She is so controlled by her thoughts and emotions, that she doesn't even realize that your peaceful nature is the piece of string that is actually holding the two of you together right now. Your wife continues to struggle with many personal and professional issues, and for the last few months she has been feeling incredibly overwhelmed. With all of that occurring for her, those overwhelmed feelings are now creating the illusion that make it appear as if you have not completely fulfilled your end of the marriage bargain. She is feeling cheated from you... cheated emotionally.. basically because there has been no immediate resolution to your situation, so she feels as if she needs to now take this matter into her own hands (along with her other workload). She is overburdened, and feeling under-appreciated.
On the other hand, your personal experience feels that time and love heals all, and that this will all work out in the end. Hard effort does not have to be applied in your mind - when love and faith is on your side. She doesn't have faith. She feels that without hard effort, that you are not offering something solid for the marriage, and she does not want to be the only one incharge of making the marriage work. The union between the two of you is a priority, and fixing it immediately is necessary, as it lays an extra heavy burden across her weary shoulders. Her thoughts are jumbled with confusion and frustrations, that is creating an murky gray aura that resembles stagnation, making her feel that there will be no room for growth for the future.
I do see that your marriage will last, but it will also have a few unresolved issues that seem to be too sensitive to discuss in an adult manner.. at least for the next few months. I see the two of you holding on to what you have built together, but see you living separate lives while living together. Love and passion still exists between you, so if you are both willing to take some additional steps (as in marriage counseling and inner work) to find peace, contentment and trust... you can overcome those feelings of limitations and roadblocks toward happiness. If the two of you consider professional consultations with a trained person in this field, I see late August will be a joyful turning point in your lives. Without the help of a professional, you can expect to see your marriage take a promising turn toward forgiveness and reconciliation by as early as late fall.
Best Wishes.
Tarot Email Readings
April 26, 2006
April 19, 2006
The Same Dream - Night After Night
A few years ago, I lost one of things that I looked forward to in the evening - and that was the ability to dream. My dreams were always active and meaningful. Sleep was prophetic for me - and when I lost that - I lost part of my identity. Within recent months, my dreams have made their way back to me. I have been blessed with the return of those unconscious visions that I had missed so much for so long. With that, this particular email had me daydreaming about the return of my nocturnal gift.. and gave me my own sweet trip down memory "dreamland" lane.
Dear Starcana - I have a dream that frequents my sleep, and I hope that you can help. I have this dream where I am a close observer (but invisible) to my boyfriend's life. I will often see him flirting and having sexual relations with other women right infront of me! Now I am worried that he might be cheating on me, and that this might be a sign that he isn't the one for me! Please help! Nightmare in Oregon
Dear Nightmare in Oregon - Your dreams are actually bringing up sensitive issues that have been upsetting you regarding a distant relationship from years back that did not work out. Old feelings of insecurity still haunt your thoughts (and dreams). Because of the same dream that is recurring, you lack confidence and trust that this partnership can stand on solid ground. You feel that you must pay attention and keep a closer eye on him now (as you even watch him in your sleep!). He really isn't aware that you are watching his every move (even though you are right beside him in the dream) because you are unseen, and invisible. This will make you feel that you aren't getting the fair attention that you need, and have you feeling abit ignored - or have you feel as if you are invisible.
In your dream, your boyfriend has a choice between being with you, or the other women - and because you are there watching him mingle... you will wonder if he desires something more than what you offer. Because of his promiscuous behavor with the other women, your personal fears are exposed in your dreams, which consist of infidelity, secrets, and rejection.
This is not a dream that will validate any future unfaithfulness. It's more of a sign that the two of you lack communication, and that there are important things that you want (and need) to say to him - but you have chosen not to approach him on it. Your fear of opening up to him is what is causing your life (and sleep) to be disturbed. I feel that until you are honest with him and yourself, that you will continue to feel at odds.
On May 9, the moon is in Libra, where honesty and open communications offer balance and peace that you need right now. Invite him for an evening walk in the park, and you will get the positive response to move forward... together.
Peace.
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Dear Starcana - I have a dream that frequents my sleep, and I hope that you can help. I have this dream where I am a close observer (but invisible) to my boyfriend's life. I will often see him flirting and having sexual relations with other women right infront of me! Now I am worried that he might be cheating on me, and that this might be a sign that he isn't the one for me! Please help! Nightmare in Oregon
Dear Nightmare in Oregon - Your dreams are actually bringing up sensitive issues that have been upsetting you regarding a distant relationship from years back that did not work out. Old feelings of insecurity still haunt your thoughts (and dreams). Because of the same dream that is recurring, you lack confidence and trust that this partnership can stand on solid ground. You feel that you must pay attention and keep a closer eye on him now (as you even watch him in your sleep!). He really isn't aware that you are watching his every move (even though you are right beside him in the dream) because you are unseen, and invisible. This will make you feel that you aren't getting the fair attention that you need, and have you feeling abit ignored - or have you feel as if you are invisible.
In your dream, your boyfriend has a choice between being with you, or the other women - and because you are there watching him mingle... you will wonder if he desires something more than what you offer. Because of his promiscuous behavor with the other women, your personal fears are exposed in your dreams, which consist of infidelity, secrets, and rejection.
This is not a dream that will validate any future unfaithfulness. It's more of a sign that the two of you lack communication, and that there are important things that you want (and need) to say to him - but you have chosen not to approach him on it. Your fear of opening up to him is what is causing your life (and sleep) to be disturbed. I feel that until you are honest with him and yourself, that you will continue to feel at odds.
On May 9, the moon is in Libra, where honesty and open communications offer balance and peace that you need right now. Invite him for an evening walk in the park, and you will get the positive response to move forward... together.
Peace.
http://www.starcana.com
April 14, 2006
Good Intentions Grow Good Results
I know. I know.
I started a blog some time ago, but never made time for it. But since I am on a "10" cycle path this year - I wouldnt have made time for it anyway. Now it's the right time to start using that energy, and occasionally throwing my thoughts into my journal. I guess what inspired me to write, is that this month features Mars, and he's quite serious about getting things taken care of. But also, because I have this particular woman who emails me a few times a month, with the same email address and same question. So hopefully she reads through the site, and finds my journal, where she can find my thoughts on her particular situation. :-)
Dear Starcana... I've recently started my own business, and I want to know if I will succeed? signed, Lady in Business
Dear Lady in Business.. In my personal opinion, there is ALOT of hard work when it comes to starting your own business. Not only do you have to sell your product or service, but you must also know how to sell your self. I see that you have plenty of energy and self confidence to face any challenge that comes your way. Your feet are planted, and you are prepared to reach your goal. You have struggles with inspiration at times. A particular friend seems to be feeling alittle left out during all your time of hard work, and sometimes she can say some hurtful things to you. Her intention is not to cause you sadness, although it may look that way right now. Make some time for her, and let her know that you havent forgotten about her. With situations like these, life can get in the way.. so when it does, do not let it stop you from your plans. Sometimes doing something completely out of the ordinary is just the right medicine for you, which can help to get those creative juices and energy back in groove. A light-haired female will be offering you advice, along with a new way to organize your life. She has good intentions, and will give you the faith you need to believe in yourself. Success is in the stars, and you will proceed to take control of your business, and your life with pride. You are willing to do what ever you need to do to make it successful - and let nothing come inbetween. Good Luck!
Starcana
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I started a blog some time ago, but never made time for it. But since I am on a "10" cycle path this year - I wouldnt have made time for it anyway. Now it's the right time to start using that energy, and occasionally throwing my thoughts into my journal. I guess what inspired me to write, is that this month features Mars, and he's quite serious about getting things taken care of. But also, because I have this particular woman who emails me a few times a month, with the same email address and same question. So hopefully she reads through the site, and finds my journal, where she can find my thoughts on her particular situation. :-)
Dear Starcana... I've recently started my own business, and I want to know if I will succeed? signed, Lady in Business
Dear Lady in Business.. In my personal opinion, there is ALOT of hard work when it comes to starting your own business. Not only do you have to sell your product or service, but you must also know how to sell your self. I see that you have plenty of energy and self confidence to face any challenge that comes your way. Your feet are planted, and you are prepared to reach your goal. You have struggles with inspiration at times. A particular friend seems to be feeling alittle left out during all your time of hard work, and sometimes she can say some hurtful things to you. Her intention is not to cause you sadness, although it may look that way right now. Make some time for her, and let her know that you havent forgotten about her. With situations like these, life can get in the way.. so when it does, do not let it stop you from your plans. Sometimes doing something completely out of the ordinary is just the right medicine for you, which can help to get those creative juices and energy back in groove. A light-haired female will be offering you advice, along with a new way to organize your life. She has good intentions, and will give you the faith you need to believe in yourself. Success is in the stars, and you will proceed to take control of your business, and your life with pride. You are willing to do what ever you need to do to make it successful - and let nothing come inbetween. Good Luck!
Starcana
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